Sunday, January 29, 2006


Wanted to share some of what I have been working through while preparing for the retreat. One of the issues we will be looking at is “Are you a quicker forgiver?”

I have been working through two opposite trains of thought on the issue of should we extend forgiveness.

1. As Christians, we need to extend forgiveness to anybody that wrongs us whether they seek our forgiveness or not. 1 Peter 2:20-23; 1 Peter 3:9; Luke 23:34; Mark 11:25; Matthew 6:14

2. As Christians, we need to emulate God and be ready to forgive anyone, but only extend that forgiveness to those who seek it. Colossians 3:13; Psalms 86:5; Luke 17:3-4; Ephesians 4:32; 1 Kings 13:3-6

I have landed on a position, before I tell you what and why, work through these passages (and any others you might find) and see what you come up with.



Diana Rosner said...

Here's my thought process after reading the verses:

We are called to emulate God. God forgave us of our sins without us asking by sending his Son to die on the cross. We should forgive anyone whether they seek our forgiveness or not, especially in those cases where forgiveness is sought from us. Otherwise we should question why we are withholding forgiveness, especially if we are "ready" to extend it.

Tom said...

Christ forgave us unconditionally, if our goal is sanctification then we should be willing to forgive others unconditionally.

If we withhold forgiveness until someone asks for it have we truly forgiven that person?

A question popped into my head as I was reading the verses. If Christ so readily extended forgiveness is it considered a sin for us to withhold it?

Jamie McBride said...

I will answer, I am just giving Scott and Mark time to answer.

RobenC said...

In the Bible, what does the confession of sin, or repentance, have to do with the forgiveness of sin?

Jamie McBride said...

Roben, read Luke 17:3-4

Jamie McBride said...

Did Christ forgive everyone when He died on the cross? Who is forgiven? Mark 1:15, Mark 2:17, Mark 6:12, Luke 15:10, Luke 24:47, Acts 3:19, Acts 8:22, etc. I think you get the point. For God, remission of sins always follows repentence.

Kelly said...

I taught on this at a women's retreat and what I remember is that you can't forgive someone if they don't ask for it. Your not suppose to hold a grudge against that person but how can you forgive if they don't ask for it? Does that make sense?

Jamie McBride said...

Kelly, if we can't fogive people with out their asking for it, how do we follow through with the command given in Mark 11:25?

RobenC said...

I was trying to prod the fire a bit - I was actually thinking more of how we need to confess our sins to God. I was thinking more along the lines of 1 John 1:9.

Since option 2 centers on emulating God - and since God wants us to confess our sins...
Neh. 9:17 tells us that He is a God of forgiveness. Psalm 86:5 - that He is ready to forgive... all who call upon Him.

So He is ready to extend forgiveness to us but we must confess.

Mark is in Michigan, by the way. So I'm not sure if he's following the discussion yet.